Hola Beautiful Soul
I have been reflecting on how hard we are on ourselves. Or more appropriately, how hard I used to be on me... I know I am not alone! Often the first person that we judge or criticise when things seem to be going wrong is the very person who is experiencing the perceived wrongdoing.
Isn’t it interesting how we have arrived at that space. A space of not always trusting ourselves. A space where we can feel anything but safe by what we are experiencing on the outside. And yet... our behaviour – if we are blaming ourselves – only compounds this.
When did the idea of a best friend become an external one rather than an internal one?
What if you chose to take on this role yourself? Actively chose to be the one to support yourself. Even if, lots of the time, you didn’t even know what that looked like. And certainly not at first.
Like any new idea we feel drawn to it can take time for its effects to be felt. Time to recognise that it is working. And the ways in which that might be... Maybe a greater sense of certainty. However small. Maybe a greater sense of safety. Through a softening of a tendency to judge. Maybe a greater degree of happiness. For we stop blaming ourselves.
I have recognised through my ongoing journey of personal growth and development – this is what real transformation looks like. As much as epiphanies and sudden forward motion are real, most of the work is done in the trenches. The unglamorous route of never giving up on yourself. No matter how hard it gets.
Real growth is based on making simple choices through awareness over and over again.
As we cycle through more external change, energetic and otherwise, one of the most powerFULL things we can do is come to our own aid. To befriend ourselves. To recognise we are not the enemy. Instead, if we allow ourselves to, we might just recognise and realise that there is a wise and powerFULL guide residing inside.
Blessèd Be.